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"After recommittment, I just feel like quitting. Help!"

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I received this question long ago through this site - Any advice for someone stuck in this situation?

Question -

I first became a christian when I was 16 (12 years ago) and then I was baptised at 21 and then when I was 22 I turned my back on God big time! Last July I made a recommittment to God, I gave my life back to him. Since then I have been really struggling. My question is How can I make my personal relationship with God become a reality? Its like I have it in my head but not my heart and at the moment I just feel like quitting! Help!

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After praying about it, I gave this reply (some parts omitted):

I know what you mean by feeling like quitting. I have been there and I know what you are going through. After coming to the end of myself, I have one bit of advise for you: I strongly recommend that you do yourself a favor and GIVE UP. QUIT. SURRENDER. EMPTY YOURSELF.

If you are at the end of your religious rope, THEN grease it! Let go!

Now before you think that I am steering you wrong, let me explain what I mean. When the Christian life is characterized by struggle, then something is desperately wrong. The Christian life is victorious life in which Jesus Christ empowers and fulfills you. When you taste of Him “you will thirst no more!” As He saturates your heart with joy and peace insomuch as it spills over to others around you giving glory to God and joy unspeakable, then you will know true meaning and purpose and fulfillment in your Christian walk. However, there are many obstacles that the enemy will use to prevent you and others from finding out the Real Living Water. The number one obstacle is a slight perversion of the Gospel. It may seem right, but something is missing. You may feel guilty and frustrated that you cannot be acceptable because your end of the bargain is compromised by your weaknesses. Sound familiar?

I live in Texas and there is a true story about a farmer in west Texas who made a fortune in oil. However, most of his life was lived in destitute poverty. Mr. Bates (I think was his name) was a pig rancher. He couldn’t make ends meet and struggled to survive. One day an investor asked if Mr. Bates would allow him to drill for oil on his ranch. At a very shallow depth, the largest oil reservoir in America was discovered under Mr. Bates ranch! He was rich all along, but he did not know it. When the oil was discovered, he realized all of the wealth that was his for all of the years that he was struggling.

Guess what? He quit farming pigs.

This story mirrors many other people who for years struggled to make the Christian life work. In my case (as well as theirs), God was frustrating my enjoyment of pig farming because He wanted me to search for something deeper. He wanted to introduce me to the fullness of life and the limitless resource of spiritual blessing. He wanted me to KNOW that He loves me.

His love was a key ingredient. During my years of wandering in the wasteland of religious practice, I knew nothing of God’s love. My warped understanding of devotion was pushing understanding of His love further and further away. I thought that I could influence God’s love for me. If I jumped through the hoops that my church put before me, then I thought that God would favorably appraise my acts of devotion and reward me by making His love evident in my life. Conversely, I also thought that if I failed in any way, God would be disappointed in me and find that my weaknesses would prove to make me unworthy of His love.

[name], the best kept secret in modern Christianity is that God’s love for us is never based on us! It is based on Him! We cannot extinguish His love nor can we inspire or manipulate it. He loves us, because He IS love. “God is love.”

For the longest time, I thought that I had to be lovely. Get it? It was based on me. I was pig farming. Would God be doing me any favors if He rewarded pig farming? No, He loves you and me too much to encourage SECOND best. He wants OUR HIGHEST good, not some cheap imitation. His love for me during those lean years was to never let me see His love as something that I could inspire by my own acts of devotion. Only when I gave up on all of those mirages of merit, did I come face to face with God’s wonderful and unconditional love.

Maybe the love thing is key for you too. If so, I think that I can help. I would love to share more with you about what the Bible has to say about God’s love and encourage you with some resources from ministries devoted to helping burned-out Christians. I want you to find the treasure that you have in Christ! This will happen as you loose faith in what doesn’t work and determine for yourself that you don’t want the pig ranch anymore.

First, decide that you want to find the real thing.

Lord, I lift up my sister. I ask that you show her your love and the purity and simplicity of the Gospel. If she has been deceived, I pray that your truth will set her free and replace the error that has left her desperate and in bondage. I thank you, Lord Jesus, that you have always loved her, even when she turned her back on you. I praise You that there is no way for Lisa to exhaust Your love for her. I ask that you show her the reason that you were raised from the dead. I ask that you show her that she is a new creation in You. I know that you began a good work in her and I also know that you will be faithful to complete it. AMEN.

Isaiah 49:15 “"Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!”


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Comment from: caucazhin [Visitor]
Remember that your life is no longer your own it belongs to Him.It really never was yours to begin with it belonged to sATAN under the law of sin and death in which he owned all of us as captives.But we were bought and paid for with a price and set free.
The things of this world can never fullfill you.There are so many things the modern world has to offer us but in the end they are all vanity.Vanity of vanities says the preacher the truth of this can set your mind,soul and spirit free.
We belong to him and He will never leave us nor forsake us and there is nothing that can seperate us from the love of God.We are seated in the Heavenlys with Him and our citizenship is in Heaven right NOW.
NOW is forever for those who belong to Him.You can't live the Christian life no one can live it in the power of their flesh so don't even bother trying.Let the Holy Spirit live his life through you so that you can express the message of Gods love to others.
Permalink 12/06/05 @ 17:16
Comment from: Lori [Visitor]
Whats wrong with struggling.  I think sometimes we despise it yet it is not something new.  His power is made perfect in weakness. I think to many times the words across the pulpit is if you give your going to get more.  If you do more for God your going to get more.    Gee Adam and Eve struggled about God.  His disciples struggled...everyone struggles.  Whats the guy going to quit???? how can you quit God.  LOL... Honestly he is probably measuring himself to others around him.  We all do it and were pros at it since birth. 

I think he wants a closure relationship with God.  Wow that is healthy and darn right awesome.   To me that is not quitting.. that is desiring.  The enemy wants to take away your desire for Him.  That guy has desire. 

My question is what are you quitting.. ??? God.  How can you quit that???

Be blessed in this busy season.. may the Lord bless your business.


Permalink 12/06/05 @ 20:42
Comment from: caucazhin [Visitor]
Trent on a seperate note I need a little back up if you can find the time on the subject of (LAW & GRACE)
and (LOSE SALVATION??)at this blog site.
Permalink 12/07/05 @ 17:16
Comment from: Trent [Member] ·
Permalink 12/07/05 @ 17:29
Comment from: Trent [Member] ·

[[[Whats wrong with struggling.]]]

I guess struggling can lead to surrender or more self-effort.
Letting that pressure send us to surrender can be a wonderful thing.
The softer the heart; the quicker the collapse of self-effort.
I think that he needs to quit trying to handle everything on his own.
I am reminded of Moses, when he was surrounded by a rebellion of 250 of his own people.
Moses didn't try handling anything. There was no struggle. In fact, what Moses did, looks kindof odd, and weak, and fainthearted:
From Numbers 16:4-"When Moses heard this, he fell facedown."

The greatest struggle is the struggle not to struggle, amen?

[[[His power is made perfect in weakness.]]]

I think we are saying the same thing.

[[[Honestly he is probably measuring himself to others around him.  We all do it and were pros at it since birth.]]]

That is a great observation. When I got this question, I wasn't far enough along to see that. That was years ago, and I still would not be able to see it now, if not for the grace of God.

[[[Be blessed in this busy season.. may the Lord bless your business.]]]

Thank you so much. We wish the same for you there, up north. I think you must have sent the weather that we have tonight - icy in Fort Worth!
Heather and I have prayed for an increase in our business, and our business has had a great year. We thank the Lord for that!

Still ripening,
Permalink 12/07/05 @ 17:56
Comment from: mia [Visitor]
I came to the conclusion one night that the continual struggle I was experiencing in trying to make my life pleasing to God is like I am repeatedly and intently watching a movie inside a movie theater, in this case, a movie theater with two screens.

The movie I am watching is about my so-called Christian life. I am puzzled and frustrated that in spite of my good intentions and zeal for God, he is seemingly disengaged and unresponsive to my cries for help and my miserable prayers of dedicated rhetoric. It is a story that goes in circles and displays evidence of depression and despair.

On the screen next door God is watching the life of His Son. He is extremely pleased and engaged with the perfect display of his Son’s life. A life that is blameless, holy, pure, and pleasing in His sight. Obedient unto death and beyond the grave, Jesus is a perfect display of His Father’s perfect will. God is content to gaze upon the life of His beloved Son and takes joy in the wonderment and oneness He shares with His Son
I realized that night that I could leave the theater seat in which I had been sitting in for far too long and join God in his theater. In fact He had been saving me a seat all a long.
In my spirit that night, I left the screen that featured my miserable failures and shame and took a seat next to God where together we gaze and focus on His perfect Son.

Although I had believed in Christ as my personal Savior and believed that He had died for me; I had never understood that He had lived for me as well.

Scripture says in II Cor. 3;18 that as we behold Christ we are transformed.
As a mentor of mine once said in response to this, “What you see is what you get”!
Permalink 12/14/05 @ 22:37
Comment from: Trent [Member] ·
Hey Mia-mom,

Like Mike says, "You don't rule your believing; Your believing rules you."
And if you believe that you are really that crummy miserable person that falls short, and all of the misconduct is really who you really are, then ... Well, that believing will rule you and make it as if that really is the case for you ... Even when it is not.

Glad you found grace, and shared it with me 15 years ago. I remember it well, and at first I thought you were a bit insane!

Still ripening for the harvest,
Permalink 12/21/05 @ 10:39
Comment from: Susan Geitner [Visitor]
Another possibility is that this writer was a "false convert." Our churches are full of them. They decide to "try" Christianity one day hearing the preachers promises of "blessings beyond compare" and "joy unspeakable" and a "new life" and think, "I'd like some of that!" so they pray the 'magic' prayer and presto chango they think they've got their "get out of jail free" card. Soon, they discover that they're blessings aren't falling from the sky like they'd hoped, they're getting hit with all kinds of mockery from their worldly friends and co-workers, and in fact their life is little different or "better" than before. The experiment ends when God doesn't deliver all that was promised by Pastor Overalls.

So what was missing? Godly sorrow! (2 Cor. 7:9-10) They were never shown their miserable condition and desperate situation of damnation. There was no true repentance because they were unaware of their serious lack of "goodness" prohibiting them from receiving the keys to the kingdom.

Soon, the false convert gives up and walks away having found the experience to have been a let down and 'false advertising' by the Church and has effectively been inoculated from true repentance and regeneration through the blood of Jesus.

Without showing a person their sinful condition and desperate and precarious plight, there is no true repentance of which one MUST have in order to receive the free gift of eternal life.

(Acts 11:18)
Permalink 09/29/10 @ 12:49

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